Your wedding planning first step is deciding what the most important details are for the bride and groom. It is, after all, one of the biggest days of your life. It's a party you want to remember forever. You want the memories of your wedding day to transport you back in time, make your heart happy and bring joy every time you look at the pictures or view the video. To make that happen takes a little time and effort, but it will be well worth it.
For instance, it may be extremely important for you to have a certain look. And if that be the case, it is the wedding planning first step. Our daughter was adamant that hers be in a garden. And so all the planning was designed for that type of wedding.
Making a list of the things that have been dreamed about is undeniably one of your wedding planning first steps. After all, some girls dream about that special day from the time they can play with dolls. This wedding-planning list is the list of the major, no compromise, “I want it and I want it just like I dreamed it would be,” items. Another list would be “like to have” items that may or may not be in the final budget, or that can be compromised with similar or do it yourself items.
Don't forget to also have a list of definitely NOT. This is a good idea because it stops a mis-step down the road. You don't want to forget that your significant other most definitely does not want a certain color, or have a certain person there, or maybe something small and insignificant to you that would rub them the wrong way. Lists stop tension...Period.
For some of you out there you've dreamed about that cinderella gown for decades and now is your chance to don that dress and be a princess for an evening. If you have a dress that will set the tone of the wedding, then the dress is definitely the first thing on your must have list.
Also, if you want that cathedral veil that is "26ft" long, you would want that to be on the list, because it will affect some of the planning. After all you want a long aisle so that every one can see that gorgeous veil for all its worth.
It is a nice gesture to make a list of some of the things that are important to the bride’s and groom’s parents. The whole experience from start to finish is about the bride and groom and what they want their special day to be like, so this list is absolutely optional. However, parents like to be involved in the planning of their son's or daughter’s wedding. Let them be involved. After all, in many cases their money will be paying for the big event. Try to work in some of their wishes the best you can. It may not work in all cases, but at least give it a try. They deserve a little say simply because they brought you into this world and changed your nasty diaper when you needed it.
Below is a short list of details to consider. Your list may be much longer. Simply try to think of every aspect of weddings you’ve attended, been part of, or seen on TV, and think about what list it would be on.
Location (garden, chapel, beach, etc.)
Real or Silk Flowers and What Kinds
Important People (people that absolutely must be part of the wedding ceremony; special recognition, etc.)
Special Ceremonies (unity candle, covenant marriage, memorial, jumping the broomstick, etc.)
Favors (None at all, homemade, inexpensive, special order, theme, etc.)
Invitations (casual, formal, semi-formal)
Type of Reception (DJ, live music, formal seating, alcohol or not, professional catering or not, kids welcomed or not)
Transportation To and From (Limo, Carriage, Classic Cars, Your Car, Friend’s Car, Convertible)
Photography (Photographer, Video, Snapshots, Disposable cameras )
I might add that you should get a Wedding Planning Notebook organizer of some sort. Either make one of your own a binder or purchase one. A book like below will do just fine and will make for a keepsake when the wedding is all said and done
Now that you've made your first decisions concerning your wedding planning details, it's time to move to step two to set the budget.
Wedding Planning First Steps to Wedding Budget
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